PM Quote of the Day — Catherine the Great

I praise loudly, I blame softly

Doing the converse — praising softly and blaming loudly — is one of the fastest ways to undermine a colleague or a team.  The worst examples are public blame bouts — there is nothing more cringeworthy than hearing a team beat itself up in a flurry of recriminations.

Every time that I’ve ignored this advice it was because there was something wrong with my attitude.  This behavior — no matter how “justified” by the facts — usually happened because I find the results of a situation somehow unacceptable to me.

When looking back at these outbursts, I’ve found that I had become obsessed with advancing or protecting my image. Especially in cases where I am very sure that I am right, I must accept life completely on life’s terms. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

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