Not getting that promotion and handling failure

We talk a lot about the need to fail and there are lots of great nuggets of wisdom like “A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” and “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”  But doesn’t that all sound like a bunch of hooey when failure visits you personally?

The best example of this phenomenon is when one doesn’t get a promotion.   As Amy Gallo puts it in her HBR blog post “Didn’t Get That Promotion?

Getting passed over for a promotion can be disheartening and even humiliating. Whether you thought you deserved the job or were promised it, no one likes hearing that they didn’t meet the mark.

It is a rejection that’s more painful than any save for unrequited or lost love.  One can brush off a failed project or presentation fairly easily… at least compared to hearing that one didn’t quite cut it. 

Gallo and her experts hit on familiar points up front: act ( but don’t react), get some outside perspective, no whingeing.  However, I found the last two points the most valuable from my experience.  I would go even further: reframing the experience and reenergizing one’s network are essential to make the obvious work.  One can’t exercise patience, get “outside > in” feedback, then take appropriate action without taking those two steps first.

PM Quote of the Day — Albert Einstein

The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits

PM Quote of the Day — Albert Einstein

Make everything as simple as possible, but not simpler.

PM Quote of the Day — Albert Einstein

Any intelligent fool can make things bigger and more complex… It takes a touch of genius — and a lot of courage — to move in the opposite direction.

PM Quote of the Day — Albert Einstein

Most people say that is it is the intellect which makes a great scientist. They are wrong: it is character

PM Quote of the Day — Albert Einstein (attributed)

Boredom is the highest mental state.

While we love to decry boredom, it can become a pathway to enlightment and transformation.  As the Daily Om notes (here):

Boredom itself is not detrimental to the soul—it is the manner in which we respond to it that determines whether it becomes a positive or a negative influence in our lives. When you respond by actively filling the emptiness you feel lurking in yourself, you cultivate creativity and innovation. 

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